To be honest, I don't believe in true love anymore. I believe in finding someone who you can both eventually learn to live with each other's ideosyncrancies, but true love or love at first sight, no.
I guess I'm jaded or a cynic but I just don't believe like I did when I was a little girl.
Yes. I have it. It took an enormous amount of work, but these last 15 years with my partner are more than I could have ever dreamed of. Communication & learning how to really talk to each other is the key.
I feel like there are certainly difficulties with people on the spectrum finding love. Relationships are probably the biggest place where the rules of interaction are not spoken, and the ones that people talk about often don't have substance. There are a lot of idealistic ideas out there such as "The ONE" or "just act naturally/like you always do/be yourself" that if taken literally are bad news.
Also, most courting is heavily dependent on reading someone else's interest, which is a pain in the butt. It seems like everybody has a hard time with this though. What I think is hardest is that there is a whole new set of rules to be learned for a relationship/courtship that are different with how you interact with other people.
I believe love is certainly possible, and so if it exists, its true.
I don't know if it was the writing style or what, but something slightly bothered me about the article. It was like it was written to highlight autistic people as strange and different.
Sometimes it's difficult to separate the difference between just being a smart academicky nerdy introvert person, and autistic spectrum difficulties.
To be honest, I don't believe in true love anymore. I believe in finding someone who you can both eventually learn to live with each other's ideosyncrancies, but true love or love at first sight, no.
ReplyDeleteI guess I'm jaded or a cynic but I just don't believe like I did when I was a little girl.
Yes. I have it. It took an enormous amount of work, but these last 15 years with my partner are more than I could have ever dreamed of. Communication & learning how to really talk to each other is the key.
ReplyDeleteI feel like there are certainly difficulties with people on the spectrum finding love. Relationships are probably the biggest place where the rules of interaction are not spoken, and the ones that people talk about often don't have substance. There are a lot of idealistic ideas out there such as "The ONE" or "just act naturally/like you always do/be yourself" that if taken literally are bad news.
ReplyDeleteAlso, most courting is heavily dependent on reading someone else's interest, which is a pain in the butt. It seems like everybody has a hard time with this though. What I think is hardest is that there is a whole new set of rules to be learned for a relationship/courtship that are different with how you interact with other people.
I believe love is certainly possible, and so if it exists, its true.
I don't know if it was the writing style or what, but something slightly bothered me about the article. It was like it was written to highlight autistic people as strange and different.
Sometimes it's difficult to separate the difference between just being a smart academicky nerdy introvert person, and autistic spectrum difficulties.